Shelves: non-fiction I hated the format of this book. It was like Canfield would make a single small statement like "Be Bold" and then would add some strange quotes and anecdotes from other people all in different fonts. If you can get through the rabble, there are some good ideas in this book, like creating your own wish list, and how to ask for what you want. But the format is terrible. Nov 26, Gina rated it did not like it Barf.
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Shelves: non-fiction I hated the format of this book. It was like Canfield would make a single small statement like "Be Bold" and then would add some strange quotes and anecdotes from other people all in different fonts.
If you can get through the rabble, there are some good ideas in this book, like creating your own wish list, and how to ask for what you want. But the format is terrible. Nov 26, Gina rated it did not like it Barf. I started with a very negative opinion of this book, based on the rapidly increasing self-absorption of someone who was really taken with it.
Years later - at a point where I realize I need to get better at asking for help - I wondered if I had unfairly blamed the book. He knows if people Barf. He knows if people will just see that he is really a prince, then he will have access to all the riches.
It is that so much of the entire point is based on distinguishing yourself by imposing on others, and not even for good reasons. One of the exercises mentioned was going into "ethnic" restaurants and asking for a food from a different cuisine, like going into an Italian restaurant and asking for a burrito - just to get used to asking outrageously. I have worked enough customer service to want to slap anyone who does that to someone else.
There can be real issues with confidence and feelings of worthiness; some of the examples given under being afraid to ask are horrific and that resonates with me deeply. However, this is not the answer. This is mainly people who have made millions from motivational speaking congratulating themselves on changing the world, with no analysis of race or class or looking at the bigger picture. Aladdin knows he belongs in the quiet peace of the palace, leaving the crowded marketplace behind.
I have work to do on asking, but this will never be my path. According to the authors, we can have anything we want in like; we just need to ask for it. They use Aladdin and his experience with the genie as a metaphor for this process. I found some parts of this book helpful, like figuring out what you want and why you dont ask for it, but overall this book was just filled with quotes, stories, and anecdotes from other people. There is more from other people than the authors themselves.
And although some of these quotes and stories were helpful, overall it seemed like they were page-fillers. Should have asked someone about it first, I guess!
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I would actually give this 3 and a half stars. So often, the things that we want in our lives elude us for one very surprising and deceptively simple reason. The book is truly about asking. They cover business, personal, and even consumer relationships. But fascinating research in the field of psychoneuroimmunology has revealed another, far more likely possibility. Looking for beautiful books? It may seem strange at first.
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The Aladdin Factor: How to Ask for What You Want--And Get It